Hi, I’m Mary Farrelly, a certified NICU nurse, doula, and educator. I’ve spent my career supporting NICU babies and their families, bridging the gap between the medical model of NICU care and the holistic, family-centered approach that doulas and support professionals provide. My mission is simple: to bring more joy and less trauma to the NICU experience through empowered education — for parents, doulas, and other birth professionals.
Every day, I receive questions from families and birth workers who want to feel more prepared for the NICU, whether it’s an expected part of their journey or a complete surprise. Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions I hear to help you navigate this experience with confidence and support.
First of all — take a deep breath, you’ve got this. I know this wasn’t part of your plan, but there are things you can do right now to feel more confident and in control before your baby arrives. And know that there are so many people who will be there to support you through the NICU journey.
💡 Resource: My NICU Toolkit includes a NICU Birth Plan Template, NICU 101 video, and supportive handouts to help you feel more prepared. Use code EDUCATEDBIRTH for 25% off here.
Even if you don’t expect a NICU stay, 1 in 10 babies in the U.S. spend time in the NICU, and nearly half of NICU babies are full-term. That’s why I recommend all birthing people include the NICU as a part of their birth plan — not out of fear, but so you can make informed decisions if things change unexpectedly.
💡 Free Resource: Download my NICU Birth Plan Template here to ensure you’re prepared for any birth outcome. Print it out, fill it out once and tuck it away knowing it’s there if you need it.
You’re not alone — leaving the NICU can be just as overwhelming as entering it. Going from 24/7 nursing care to being on your own is a huge shift, but here are some ways to ease the transition:
💡 Free Resource: Grab my NICU Discharge Checklist here to help you plan a smooth transition home. If you want more personalized support, I also offer virtual NICU doula consults here.
You’re not alone! Most doula trainings don’t include NICU education, leaving doulas unsure how to support clients in this space. But here’s the truth: 1 in 10 babies go to the NICU, meaning every doula should have a basic understanding of NICU support.
Here are some ways you can help right now:
💡 Want to deepen your NICU knowledge? I offer a free workshop, From Crisis to Comfort: How Doulas Can Make a Difference in the NICU Experience register here, or check out my full Navigating the NICU for Doulas training here.
Whether you’re a pregnant parent preparing for the NICU, a NICU family navigating discharge, or a doula supporting clients through the unknown, I hope this helped you feel a little more confident. The NICU is a world of resilience, strength, and love, and with the right knowledge and support, you can navigate it with empowerment instead of fear.
If you’re looking for more resources or 1:1 support, you can connect with me:
📩 Follow me on Instagram @thenicutranslator
📚 Explore my NICU resources on The NICU Translator Website
And remember – the NICU is only the beginning and there is so much joy ahead💕
Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Every NICU experience is unique, and parents and caregivers should always consult with their healthcare providers for guidance specific to their baby’s needs. Additionally, while doulas and support professionals can play an important role in assisting NICU families, their support should complement—not replace—medical advice and care from licensed healthcare providers.